Just how accurate are TV shows when it comes to the ups and downs of childhood?
A lot has changed since 2002, when The Story of Tracy Beaker debuted on CBBC, particularly our attitude to mental health, emotions and anxiety, but according to a poll by Parents' Toolkit and Netmums, 49% of parents still felt that there was stigma around their child having a mental health problem.
To see how stigma is represented in the very first episode of The Story of Tracy Beaker, we enlisted the help of presenter and NHS clinician Dr Ranj. Let's see what he has to say…
Dr Ranj: Hi everyone! I’m Dr Ranj and this is Dr Ranj Reacts. In this film, we’re going to be checking out Series 1, Episode 1 of all-time classic, The Story of Tracy Beaker. Lets go.
CLIP ONE
Mike: Hey Lou, Tracy’s upstairs. Gonna say hello?
Louise: Why does everyone keep on going on about Tracy?
Mike: Sorry. I thought you two were mates?
Louise: So did I until she left and forgot all about me.
Dr Ranj: What this perfectly shows is the importance of relationships as a child. Our emotional development when we’re growing up is forming these connections with other people - friends, family – and being able to deal with it when they don’t necessarily work out or they don’t exist anymore.
Dr Ranj: My friends from university are like a second family to me, whereas my friends from primary school, junior school – I’m not really in touch with but at the time, they were my entire world. Yeah, remind your kids of that – that that’s perfectly normal and it’s okay. You’re going to be fine, you’re still going to have friends.
CLIP TWO
Tracy: Don’t see why she made a fuss. He’s nothing special.
Peter: I’d rather have a dad like that who visited, than no-one at all.
Dr Ranj: What a lovely thing to say.
Peter: Are you crying?
Tracy: Bog off, Tracy Beaker never cries. It’s the Dumping Ground dust.
Dr Ranj: The reason Tracy’s crying here, is that she wants to communicate an emotion, she really does, and she fobs it off straight away when asked about it directly. And we do that for lots of reasons. Firstly, we do that because we’re trying to protect ourselves from how those feelings feel, or we may even be embarrassed about expressing ourselves.
Dr Ranj: If you’re a parent or carer that wants to access and address those sorts of difficult feelings with your little one, remind them that a lot of these difficult feelings are actually transient – they come and go. And going through them is normal, but by processing the difficult ones means that next time, when you encounter a similar situation, you’ll be better equipped at dealing with it.
CLIP THREE
Tracy: SORRY! Okay?
Jenny: Tracy!
Tracy: What? I apologised didn’t I?
Jenny: Enough to make grown men tremble three streets away! Now, you’re going to apologise and you’re going to do it so that everybody knows that you mean it!
Dr Ranj: Fair point.
Dr Ranj: Tracy wants someone to notice how she’s feeling. She wants to talk to someone and the only way she feels she can express that – because she may not have any other tools to do so – is by being angry and shouting.
Dr Ranj: So when I was growing up, if I acted out, my parents would often not have the right reaction to that, because they didn’t know any better. But we know better now. If your child or young person is doing that just take a breath, and then think, ‘Right, okay, what’s going on here, what’s a possible reason behind it, and how can I respond to this in a bit more of a constructive way?’ Rather than just shouting back at them.
Dr Ranj: We all love a bit of Tracy Beaker, don’t we? That’s it for Dr Ranj Reacts, and I’ll see you next time!
Friendships
Tracy Beaker is returning to The Dumping Ground, but her old friend Louise wants nothing to do with her. Louise is hurt after Tracy left with a new foster family and "forgot all about [her]".
This reminds Dr Ranj of the importance of friendships when you're a child and the emotional development we all go through when those friendships falter or disappear.
My friends from primary school, junior school – I’m not really in touch with, but at the time, they were my entire world.
– Dr Ranj
His advice for parents: it might be a difficult conversation, but try to remind your child that it is normal and okay for friendships to end and it's something that happens to everyone at some point in life.
To help your child build their resilience, take a look at this article with psychologist Dr Sandi Mann.
Crying or hay fever?
After the disappointment of her most recent foster family, Tracy now has to watch her nemesis, Justine Littlewood, spending time with her dad in the Dumping Ground garden. She's crying, but when Peter asks if she's okay, she dismisses it as hay fever - "It's the Dumping Ground dust."
Dr Ranj sees Tracy desperately trying to communicate an emotion, but at the same time, "we’re trying to protect ourselves from how those feelings feel, or we may even be embarrassed about expressing ourselves."
Ranj also offers some for parents and carers who want to access and address tricky emotions with their child - "Remind them that a lot of these difficult feelings are transient – they come and go. And going through them is normal, but by processing the difficult ones means that next time, when you encounter a similar situation, you’ll be better equipped at dealing with it."
If you want to have an honest conversation with your child about their emotions or mental health, this Parents' Toolkit article has lots of advice to help you help your child to open up.
Aggressive apologies
Jenny, head careworker at The Dumping Ground, makes Tracy say sorry to Justine Littlewood for breaking her clock. This is a difficult situation for Tracy, as she doesn't particularly want to say sorry, so she settles for yelling apology - "SORRY! OKAY">